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के तपाईलाई आफ्नो छोरा/छोरी हरु भनेकै मान्दैनन भन्ने लाग्छ ? Do you feel that you are struggling or having difficulties to deal with your child?


Many adults (parents) feel that they are not able to deal with their children. You feel that your children do not understand you, or your children are too difficult to deal with.  

 
 

Here, I am giving you five tips that I want you to try with your child.  


  1. Come down to the level of your children. Try to see things and situation from your child's age and their intellectual level.
  2. Try to validate children's feelings. Do not always question and reject your child's feelings. Look, whatever they are going through or their situation, it is real for them. Their feelings are real. Try to validate their feelings and emotions.
  3. Offer them options and choices. Do not force your ideas on your child. Give them options and let them decide. This makes them feel that they are respected and valued. This also improves their confidence.
  4. Let your child deal with their situation by themselves and ask if they want you to be involved. Keep an eye and let them feel that you are always there for them.
  5. Do not be too intrusive. Look, being concerned is one thing but being intrusive is negative. Be concerned and be aware of things happening around your child but do not be too nosey/intrusive in their life. Understand that they are trying to become adults and trying to develop their own identity. 

Thank you :) Try this and give send feedback or question at drkishor@pdl.com.np 

Google Translation in Nepali


धेरै अभिभावक महसुस गर्छन् कि उनीहरू आफ्ना बच्चाहरूसँग व्यवहार गर्न सक्षम छैनन्। तपाईं महसुस

गर्नुहुन्छ कि तपाईंका बच्चाहरूले तपाईंलाई बुझ्दैनन् , वा तपाईंका छोराछोरीहरूसँग व्यवहार गर्न धेरै गाह्रो

छ।  

 

यहाँ, म तपाईंलाई पाँच सुझावहरू दिँदैछु जुन म चाहन्छु कि तपाईं आफ्नो बच्चासँग प्रयास गर्नुहोस्। 

  1. आफ्ना छोराछोरीको स्तरमा आउनुहोस्। तपाईंको बच्चाको उमेर र उनीहरूको बौद्धिक स्तरबाट चीजहरू र अवस्था हेर्न प्रयास गर्नुहोस्।
  2.  बालबालिकाको भावनालाई पहिचान गरेर त्यसलाई स्वीकार गर्ने प्रयास गर्नुहोस्  । सधैं आफ्नो  बच्चाको  भावनालाई प्रश्न नगर्नुहोस् र अस्वीकार नगर्नुहोस्  । हेर्नुहोस्, तिनीहरू जे पनि गुज्रिरहेका छन् वा तिनीहरूको अवस्था,  यो तिनीहरूको  लागि वास्तविक  हो । तिनीहरूको  भावना वास्तविक छ।  तिनीहरूको भावना र भावनाहरू प्रमाणित गर्ने प्रयास गर्नुहोस्  ।
  3. तिनीहरूलाई विकल्प र विकल्पहरू  प्रस्ताव  गर्नुहोस्।  आफ्नो बच्चालाई आफ्नो विचार जबरजस्ती  नगर्नुहोस्  । तिनीहरूलाई विकल्प दिनुहोस् र तिनीहरूलाई निर्णय गर्न दिनुहोस्। यसले उनीहरूलाई आदर र मूल्यवान भएको महसुस गराउँछ। यसले उनीहरुको आत्मविश्वास पनि बढ्छ ।
  4.  तपाईंको बच्चालाई तिनीहरूको अवस्था आफैंसँग व्यवहार गर्न दिनुहोस् र सोध्नुहोस् कि यदि तिनीहरू तपाईंलाई संलग्न हुन चाहन्छन् । आँखा राख्नुहोस् र तिनीहरूलाई महसुस गराउनुहोस् कि तपाईं तिनीहरूको लागि सधैं त्यहाँ हुनुहुन्छ।
  5.  धेरै हस्तक्षेप नगर्नुहोस्  । हेर,  चिन्तित हुनु एउटा कुरा हो तर हस्तक्षेप गर्नु नकारात्मक कुरा हो। चिन्तित हुनुहोस् र तपाईंको बच्चाको वरिपरि भइरहेका चीजहरू बारे सचेत हुनुहोस् तर   उनीहरूको जीवनमा धेरै नाक/हस्तक्षेप नगर्नुहोस् । बुझ्नुहोस् कि तिनीहरू  वयस्क बन्न  र आफ्नो पहिचान विकास गर्न प्रयास गर्दैछन्। 

धन्यवाद :) यो प्रयास गर्नुहोस् र drkishor@pdl.com.np मा प्रतिक्रिया वा प्रश्न पठाउनुहोस्


 

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